{"id":20904,"date":"2014-01-01T08:00:59","date_gmt":"2014-01-01T13:00:59","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/mommybites.com\/newyork\/?p=20904"},"modified":"2013-12-31T07:23:03","modified_gmt":"2013-12-31T12:23:03","slug":"myth-about-having-it-all","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mommybites.com\/newyork\/myth-about-having-it-all\/","title":{"rendered":"The Myth About Having It All"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"Chances are, you\u2019ve heard it throughout your life. \u201cYou can have it all.\u201d \u201cWomen can do it all.\u201d \u201cI can bring home the bacon, fry it up in a pan\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n

And the thing about this myth, is that we want it to be true<\/em>. We know we\u2019re smart enough to have it all, we know we\u2019re capable of doing everything needed to have it all, and well, we want it all.<\/p>\n

And the real reason, I believe, that the myth caught on like wild fire, is because we know we can do it all if we want to. I know I tried. I wanted to be the Martha Stewart mother, making cookies, decorating my home, making sure my kids have perfect meals, they look great all the time, and be a senior executive.<\/p>\n

Long story short, we can<\/em> do it all, but it\u2019s exhausting. For me, I chose not to do it all. It\u2019s not possible for me to be in an annual strategy meeting until 6:30 PM and be home to make a meal for my kids, help them with their homework and get them in bed by 9:00 PM. Now, if someone could invent a time-bending machine, that would be amazing.<\/p>\n

But until then, there are shortcuts, right? I mean, I could order dinner from a local restaurant, I could work on homework over the phone on the commute home. I could spend all day Sunday making all the meals for the week ahead. But do I actually want that? Do I want my days to be like that, day in and day out?<\/p>\n

This is what I believe has been lost in the shuffle here. We don\u2019t take the time to ask ourselves what we really want any more<\/em>. I mean, who has the time for that? We\u2019re all too busy trying to have it all to stop and see if we even want it!<\/p>\n

\"\"Instead of being a blessing, and something to strive for, the idea of this myth has shifted. We don\u2019t feel free to get out there and \u201chave it all.\u201d Instead, we feel pressure to make sure we\u2019re \u201chaving it all.\u201d We have to do it all perfectly, with a smile, and we need to look really good while we do it. Many women feel that we\u2019ve lost the choice, the option of doing what we want, and once again, as women, we\u2019re being told by outside sources what is expected of us.<\/p>\n

We\u2019ve taken on the myth like a mantle, and some have even turned on our fellow women who don\u2019t \u201cdo it all\u201d in the same way. The media has loved this angle \u2013 every talk show and news organization has had a segment (or five) on \u201cThe Mommy Wars.\u201d We\u2019ve been told we\u2019re not doing enough (Lean In<\/em> anyone?), we\u2019re not doing it right, or that the grass is always greener.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t want to sound hyperbolic here, but as women, we\u2019ve always been told what our place is. We\u2019ve always had expectations put upon us by \u201cthe powers that be\u201d in society. And we\u2019ve always pushed against it, subtly and not-so-subtly, throughout history. But this current wave of feminism seems much more gentle and, well, much more feminine<\/em>.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s a beautiful thing to see us take a step back, tell the truth about what we\u2019re experiencing and taking on new business, family life and friends in a completely different way.<\/p>\n

For 2014 and beyond, I would love to see us take the time to truly figure out what we love, what we want. This doesn\u2019t mean we can fix it all in 20 minutes, or even one month. But the exercise of asking ourselves what we want to do, and why we want to do it, is so important.<\/p>\n

And I believe it\u2019s our key to truly having it all, in a way that works for us. It\u2019s time for each of us to grant ourselves permission to find our own Better Way.<\/p>\n

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Chances are, you\u2019ve heard it throughout your life. \u201cYou can have it all.\u201d \u201cWomen can do it all.\u201d \u201cI can bring home the bacon, fry it up in a pan\u2026\u201d And the thing about this myth, is that we want it to be true. We know we\u2019re smart enough to have it all, we know […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1247,"featured_media":20906,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"schneps_byline":"","schneps_post_style":"","schneps_post_source":"","schneps_syndicated_read_more":"","schneps_post_source_sitename":"","schneps_post_source_shortname":"","schneps_post_source_url":"","schneps_post_source_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[45],"tags":[53,62,50,76,77],"class_list":["post-20904","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-moms","tag-health","tag-money","tag-relationships","tag-support","tag-work"],"acf":[],"parsely":{"version":"1.1.0","canonical_url":"https:\/\/mommybites.com\/newyork\/myth-about-having-it-all\/","smart_links":{"inbound":0,"outbound":0},"traffic_boost_suggestions_count":0,"meta":{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org","@type":"NewsArticle","headline":"The Myth About Having It All","url":"http:\/\/mommybites.com\/newyork\/myth-about-having-it-all\/","mainEntityOfPage":{"@type":"WebPage","@id":"http:\/\/mommybites.com\/newyork\/myth-about-having-it-all\/"},"thumbnailUrl":"https:\/\/mommybites.com\/newyork\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2013\/12\/sarahwalton3.jpg?w=150&h=150&crop=1","image":{"@type":"ImageObject","url":"https:\/\/mommybites.com\/newyork\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2013\/12\/sarahwalton3.jpg"},"articleSection":"Moms","author":[{"@type":"Person","name":"sarahwalton"}],"creator":["sarahwalton"],"publisher":{"@type":"Organization","name":"Mommybites New York","logo":""},"keywords":["health","money","relationships","support","work"],"dateCreated":"2014-01-01T13:00:59Z","datePublished":"2014-01-01T13:00:59Z","dateModified":"2014-01-01T13:00:59Z"},"rendered":"