{"id":27250,"date":"2019-10-21T07:00:55","date_gmt":"2019-10-21T12:00:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/mommybites.com\/newyork\/?p=27250"},"modified":"2021-05-20T15:09:04","modified_gmt":"2021-05-20T20:09:04","slug":"nanny-talk-top-5-ways-improve-relationship-nanny","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mommybites.com\/newyork\/nanny-talk-top-5-ways-improve-relationship-nanny\/","title":{"rendered":"Nanny Talk: The Top 5 Ways to Improve Your Relationship with Your Nanny"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"girl,<\/p>\n

If you follow any of the ever-popular parenting boards or groups on social media sites, you\u2019ve likely encountered more than one mother venting about her nanny. There seems to be a rise in the ideology that nannies must inherently be all-knowing, psychic, and micromanaged all at the same time. While in most cases this is simply a (major) miscommunication, rest assured there are easy steps to take to ensure the nanny\/parent relationship is harmonious for all.<\/p>\n

Nannies<\/em>:\u00a0moms aren\u2019t all over-privileged tyrants.<\/strong> In most cases, moms are just tired, frazzled, and stressed out – with probably a hint of guilt thrown in for hiring a nanny in the first place.<\/p>\n

Moms<\/em>:\u00a0nannies are not mind-readers.<\/strong> They are not all out to steal your husbands either. Nor do they like being micromanaged to the point of a mental breakdown (would you like that kind of work environment?).<\/p>\n

The biggest \u201ctrick\u201d to\u00a0ensuring\u00a0a healthy working relationship for everyone involved?\u00a0COMMUNICATION.<\/p>\n

Talk to each other in great detail both before the commitment begins and during the employment contract as well. It\u2019s the ONLY way you\u2019ll both be on the same page throughout the position,\u00a0and it will iron out any misconceptions before they can even occur.<\/p>\n

That being said, there are a few other tips and tricks you can use to keep your relationship in tip-top shape.<\/p>\n

Here are the Top 5 Ways to Improve Your Relationship with Your Nanny:<\/strong><\/p>\n

1.\u00a0Lay Out the Roles and Responsibilities from the Start<\/h2>\n

This goes without saying, but there needs to be a clear-cut set of instructions, rules, and\/or guidelines that give details on what\u2019s expected of everyone in the family (not just the nanny). Behaviors and discipline efforts need to be addressed up front, and schedules and routines should be outlined, as well as anything in the home that is \u201coff limits\u201d for activities or entrance.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t expect your nanny to know you planned to dress your kids in that outfit on Sunday if you didn\u2019t tell her on Monday not to use it. Nannies aren\u2019t psychic.<\/p>\n

\"improve2. Don\u2019t Micromanage your nanny – Just Don\u2019t<\/h2>\n

As hard as it may be to hand over the reins to someone else when it comes to your children, you MUST trust your nanny to do her job. If you\u2019re micromanaging every little thing,\u00a0it doesn\u2019t exactly inspire\u00a0much confidence in the person who is in charge of looking after your kiddos, now does it?<\/p>\n

It\u2019s more likely to cause a mental breakdown, or at the very least, a highly stressful work environment. Just don\u2019t do it. You hired them to do the job, so trust that you did your job in screening them first.<\/p>\n

\"nanny3. Don\u2019t Be Stingy with the Benefits<\/h2>\n

If you start to look at your nanny in a way that you\u2019d like to be viewed by your employer, it makes it easier to understand how important it is to appreciate them. Also, let\u2019s be honest here, watching kids all day is a stressful job in itself and one that deserves a bit of gratitude.<\/p>\n

Splurging on little gifts like spa days or extra paid days off occasionally can help them know\u00a0you appreciate the job they do, as well as\u00a0refresh them for their next day with your kids.<\/p>\n

\"nanny4. Help with Organization<\/h2>\n

Running a household is tricky and confusing business – you know this because it\u2019s your home. If you want to keep it running smoothly, help your nanny stay on track with some easy organization tricks. Keeping a chalkboard, whiteboard, or calendar of events in a visible area where notes and important dates can be shared for all to see makes it easier for everyone to stay on the same page.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re all on the same page, there\u2019s less chance of a mishap or missed appointment (or soccer practice).<\/p>\n

\"nanny5. Be Understanding but Speak Up<\/h2>\n

It\u2019s highly important to be as understanding as humanly possible with your nanny. Things come up, situations happen, and mistakes are sometimes made,\u00a0too – they are human just like everyone else. If something happens, try to keep your cool and only complain about it if it\u2019s truly an issue.<\/p>\n

That being said, if there IS an issue, address it directly with your nanny (nicely) to let them know that it isn\u2019t acceptable behavior. Never, and we repeat,\u00a0never<\/em>, is it professional or ethical to \u201cvent\u201d about your nanny to others online – especially if you have not discussed the matter with the nanny directly to correct the issue.<\/p>\n

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\"\"Jamie<\/strong>\u00a0is a married mother of four \u2013 two girls and two boys \u2013 ages 3 to 22. With 19 years between her oldest and youngest, she writes to keep her sanity in check with a healthy dose of therapeutic humor injected for good measure. She is a children\u2019s book author and full-time mommy blogger for her site,\u00a0Momma Juice<\/a>\u00a0and regularly guest blogs for other sites.<\/em><\/p>\n

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