My daughter “is engaged to be engaged” to a young man she’s been dating for eight years. She, he, and his parents live in California, while my husband and I live in New York. She was raised in what I’ll call a “northeast Jewish” style — lots of communication about emotions and expectations — and […]
Our daughter in-law (DIL) has two kids, ages three and one. Two years ago they moved six hours away, and since our DIL has no means to come visit us, we go to see them. Now that our grandson Bryce is three, we feel he is old enough for us to come pick up him […]
I am profoundly sad that the grandchildren my husband Gary and I share with Andrea and Herb do not get to have Uncle Todd in their lives. Not a day goes by that I don’t join Todd’s family and friends in missing him.
You and your daughter are locked into positions and actions that you admit are not working for either of you. I assume this means you are open to trying something different in hopes of breaking this relationship logjam.
Many readers shared comments about my column “How Best to Handle Real Estate Inheritance.” Although most readers support the idea of dividing assets equally among siblings, I did receive some comments that address the issue of leaving siblings unequal amounts.
Based on your description, it appears you are justified in worrying about your niece’s behavior.
Of course, you will want to work with your financial planner and your estate lawyer when it comes to legalizing your inheritance wishes, but I can share with you some other aspects of the process that you might find helpful, including emotional and psychological considerations.
The good news is that kindness and opportunities to be kind are definitely out there and you can model them for your grandchildren.