5 Simple Ways to Show Your Nanny Support

We all know the daily stressors of raising kids can weigh on parents’ mental health, but they can take a toll on your nanny, too. Whether you’ve cut the apple into slices when your toddler suddenly decides they want it whole or you’re hitting crosstown traffic on the way to ballet class for the third week in a row, it’s easy to feel like you’re not getting it right when you’re taking care of kids’ ever-changing needs while juggling a busy schedule. 

Truth: You have to take care of yourself in order to take care of others. That’s why a little support goes a long way, and having someone show that they care–especially if that person is our boss– can be the thing that keeps us mindful in the moment and encourages us to bounce back after a long day or week. Parents can prioritize their nanny’s mental health and help prevent nanny depression by showing them support in these simple, yet meaningful ways. 

Set your nanny up for success

No one likes to be left guessing. Clearly outline schedules and household rules and info to help set your nanny up for success. This goes for providing ample time for training when they’re first starting, too. When you take the time to properly onboard your nanny, you are showing that you’re investing in their success and that you want to help them to do a good job. Even seasoned nannies need to be pointed in the right direction, so don’t assume that they automatically know what to do. Every parent and child is different, so make it your job to tell them what they need to know the entire time they work for you, and make it a point to check in consistently to show that you’re there for them when they need it. 

Build a healthy parent-nanny relationship  

As a parent, you want your relationship with your nanny to be an open, honest one. Tension leads to added stress, and your nanny feels the same way. Tension leads to added stress which, in addition to impacting a nanny’s mental health, can lead to frustration with their job.  Poor communication is also one of the main reasons nannies quit, so it’s important to keep the line of communication open at all times as well as find the balance between professional and friendly. While texting may be necessary when you’re out or at work, remember to make time for in-person or phone catch ups so you get the time to truly connect. If you feel uncomfortable about anything, chances are your nanny does too, so do your best to fix the issue immediately. By prioritizing your relationship and the way you work together, your nanny will feel encouraged and appreciate that you’re dedicated to helping them do their job well. 

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Teach kids to respect their nanny 

Impolite, poorly behaved children are a source of discontent for nannies. No one deserves to be disrespected–especially at work! Teach kids to respect their nanny, and check in with your nanny regularly to make sure they’re satisfied with your child’s behavior when you’re not around to observe and correct it yourself. When you show your nanny that insolent behavior won’t be tolerated, you’re showing them that they’re valued and have your support. 

Show your nanny appreciation 

Thoughtfulness is practically synonymous with support. Try not to wait for special occasions to remind your nanny that you are grateful for all that they do. From special gifts to personalized extra help, click here for ways to show your nanny appreciation. Not a big planner? A random thank you text is all it takes to let them know you care. 

Suggest a nanny support group 

If you’re worried your nanny is struggling, you may feel tempted offer your own ear, but nannies need an unbiased outlet so they can vent honestly and without worrying their feelings could potentially impact their current job status. Connecting your nanny with other nannies in your area can be helpful, as can sending online resources so they can find the right nanny support group. Speaking with others who understand your position and can even offer advice can be incredibly valuable. 

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