I think the fork in the road for you is to either continue to be passive and harbor all the understandable hurt you feel, or, to take some actions that might improve your chances of having access to your grandchild in the years ahead. I have four actions to suggest.
Dear Dr. Gramma Karen, My mother has advanced cancer and is in palliative care. Right now she is very sharp and is excited when everyone comes to visit. When my mom starts to slow down and becomes less lucid and her body is starting to shut down and she can’t recognize anyone, what do we […]
You and your husband have a challenging journey ahead. I have no doubt that your commitment and love will serve your grandchildren well.
I was inspired by my own experience. Three years ago, my husband and I decided to move in with my parents to a new house with our children and all live intergenerationally. My parents, who were already active grandparents, became even more involved in the day-to-day lives of my children.
Only your daughter and son-in-law can grant you access to your grandchildren under the specific set of circumstances you describe. Perhaps they will have a change of heart and allow you to see your grandchildren in the near future.
As we crawled closer to a commitment, I began to envision the better world our children would live in. And one thing I was sure about: Our children were going to be mixed. No child of mine was ever going to describe herself as “Black, with a white parent” — a phrase that I associated with the double whammy of being ignored or abandoned by your white family and labeled by an America that believes in the “one drop rule” and has enslaved, subjugated, and oppressed people accordingly.
Dear Dr. Gramma Karen, I am a young dad looking for some advice regarding my five-year-old daughter, Rachel. My mother has stage four cancer and we know she will die soon. Rachel is extremely close to her; they have always spent lots of time together, at least a twice a week. Two specific areas you […]
inding and employing the right nanny for your baby is a complicated process, which requires a lot of time and research.